wet dream: being financially secure with a career i enjoy
This is perfect 🙏
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”
I love this and this is the type of parent I want to be!
This is how we approach things with Bear, and we will do it the same way with Sparrow. We believe in open, honest communication, and teaching boundaries and safety and being smart. We treat our bodies and sexuality with respect, and only we have say over our own bodies. I can’t give my kids “permission” to have sex or stay abstinent, I can only provide them with education about how their bodies work, and contraception, and be fully honest about sex and masturbation. I can only trust THEM to make those decisions themselves, and to know they can come to me with any problems or questions they have about their bodies or sex without feeling ashamed.
"It’s telling them they’re not wrong, or sinful, or bad, if they have sexual feelings. Or even if they have sex. It’s teaching them that sex happens, whether people always make good choices or not. And it’s giving them the tools to ensure that when they’re ready, they’re smart and cautious and conscientious."
I was always just told sex is bad unless you’re married. That was my sex talk. Just don’t do it and don’t worry about it. When I lost my virginity, my loud mouthed brother told my mom. I was grounded for a month. Same thing happened each and every time my mom would find out I was alone with a boy and had the opportunity to have sex (and then was forbidden to ever speak to said boy ever again). She also went through my room on a regular basis and stole any condoms she found. I ended up hiding them in a hole in one of my slippers. As a result I couldn’t talk to my mom about sex. I couldn’t ask questions. I couldn’t joke about sex. I couldn’t go to her when I was feeling pressured by my friends despite not feeling ready. There was no open communication. My kids won’t ever experience that. They won’t be told how shameful their sexuality is. They will be told it’s normal. That they should only have sex when they are ready. I will help prepare them to say no of they want and even talk to them about if they think they are ready if they so wish. I want to be open and honest. I’m going to be the parent I needed and never had when it comes to this stuff. If I had open communication, my number of sex partners would probably be half of what it is now.